The most Frequently Asked Question:

So, why are you having two weddings? Aren’t you already married?

Ok, think about a wedding. You arrive, everything’s all set up, there’s a procession down the aisle, someone says a bunch of stuff, two other people say “I do” or something similar, and there’s a kiss, and you think “They’re married!” right?  I mean, even if you know better, that’s when you think, on a gut level, “Aw, they’re married!”

Of course, they’re not.  They’re not married until they fill out some paperwork, submit it, pay a fee, and wait for notification that it’s been duly registered and recorded. Then they’re married.

A marriage, then, is a legal relationship, while a wedding is a ceremony. One is for the state and court system, while the other is for the couple, friends, and family.  Well, in Arizona, we’re not legally able to do the legal relationship part, so that had to be done in California. When all was said and done, there proved to be significant advantages if we did the legal part earlier rather than later, so we took off at a moment’s notice to get that done.

Dante and Krista sent us with a lovely care package that made the trip much more pleasant, and Gino and Cindy surprised us by coming along and turning what could have been a sterile little bit of bureaucracy into a very memorable and warm shared experience, but sharing the main public ceremony with you remains an important part of our marriage, to us.

We hope you’ll feel the same.

Other Frequently Asked Questions:

Will there be booze? 

Absolutely. We’re thinking Guinness and Woodchuck Granny Smith Hard Cider. If something else tickles your fancy, please feel free to bring it. We’ll have cups and ice.

Will there be food?

Why, yes! We’re planning a variety of foods that can be eaten in a standing / milling about cocktail party atmosphere. There should be enough variety that everyone will get a full tummy, even if there are a few things they are allergic to or hate. Except garlic. Expect garlic in everything. Even – no, especially – the cake.

Will there be chairs? 

Good question! There will be, but not nearly enough of them. We’re asking people to bring camp chairs or folding chairs. Heck, you can bring a La-Z-Boy recliner, if you want, as long as you load and unload it.

For the love of dog and all that’s holy, wear sensible shoes.

What should we wear?

Another good question! If you’re in the wedding party, it’ll be new BLACK jeans, black shoes, and an approved shirt (we may order them all at the same time, to assure the same dye lot, or tell you where you can buy them – more news on that later. If you’re a guest, almost anything you like! Sure, people may look at you a little funny if you show up in a Snuffleupagus costume, and you’ll probably look a little out of place if you wear a space suit, a fireman’s uniform, a stormtrooper outfit (Hey, I tried!) or a toga, but for the most part, you should just be comfortable, in a casual to barely semi-formal kind of way, that can hang out out of doors on an October afternoon & evening. 🙂

Yeah, but what kind of SHOES should we wear?

Comfortable, sensible, flat shoes. There is no flooring, pavement, or asphalt anywhere you’re going to be. Much of the ground looks like this:

Hey, about that one thing you’re doing, isn’t that kind of non-traditional?

What, you mean, like two girls getting married?  Yes, ok, yes. We’re shoving a lot of traditions out the airlock here. Some of them, it’s because we don’t care for the symbolism or history of that tradition. Some of them, it’s because it’s our wedding and we like our idea better than the traditional one. Some of them, it’s because Honor’s always wanted it that way… Wait… What, kitten? Ok. No, never mind that last one. We won’t be doing that.

Where are you going on your honeymoon?

We’re having a CampingMoon! We’re going camping on the Mogollon Rim in east-central Arizona, NE of Payson. After we’ve been there a few days, people will start to arrive for the Staghold House Camping Trip, so if you’re one of those maniacs and want to come a little early, we’ll be there!

What is the airspeed of an unladen swallow?

African or European swallow?

Hey, did the language on dress code just change?

It did. I’m sorry! I missed a word in my typing before! (BLACK jeans. New BLACK jeans. I’m sorry!)

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